How to Be An Internet Grown-Up

I work with young people. And I'm the official 20-something of the church office staff. Ergo... everybody asks me about social media! You know, the Tweeters and BookFace and all that stuff the young'uns are doing these days. Lolz. Except to be fair, no one actually asks me questions like that. ;) As it turns out, more and more adults are getting on social media all the time!

But still, I'm a bit more fluent than the average 60 year old; no judgment, it's just how the generation gap rolls. So I still do get a lot of questions... and hey, since you asked, I have some opinions!

(Just fyi, I'm not hold back any punches today... get your helmet on! Ready? Okay, let's do this.)

This is the main thing I would like to cry from the rooftops: if you're a grown up, be a grown-up! Yes, you can be young at heart, you can still have fun in life, blah, blah, blah, etc. etc. etc. I love fun... just ask my friends! I'm a youth minister, for crying out loud! But if you're going to be a role model for young people - and I promise, you probably are - and you're going to be online - which, if you're reading this, you clearly are - then be a role model.

(By the way, this really applies to all of your behaviors, not just in the social media world (see 2 Maccabees 6:18-31 and Matthew 18:6). But we'll stick to the interwebs for now.)

I'm quite tired of seeing adults post complaints, gossip, and all sorts of other immaturity on Facebook and Twitter. We have a responsibility to our youth, and I'm just not going to stand around while we tank it. There is sooooooooo much emotional immaturity in the world... why are we encouraging it??

Think about it this way. If you were giving a kid drugs, that would be really unhealthy and bad (that's like Grown-Up 101). So why is it okay to teach them to be emotionally unhealthy?

And don't say that it's because you're trying to "relate" to them. Again, note the drugs example. (Feel free to bop yourself in the forehead at this point and say "duh.")

So, no matter what religion you practice or don't practice, no matter whether you're 25 or 75, I think it's time to quit it. Not just for our own sakes (which would be reason enough!) but for our youth. Because if we don't want them to grow up to be like us, that's a problem (read that again, think it through). Yes? Who's with me?

...to start acting like an adult online! (Because there had to be a cliche Uncle Sam poster involved.)

And just in case you're on board with me... I've composed a nifty pledge you can take, to help the war effort! (The war against internet awfulness!) It goes like this:

The Internet Grown-Up Club Pledge

As a member of the supposedly more mature part of humanity, I recognize that I have a responsibility to the young people around me. I therefore make the following pledge:

1. I will not use social media in order to gossip, complain, or stir up scandal. 

(Please note, there is a difference between sharing an opinion and complaining. Sharing your opinion and actually using your critical thinking skills = awesome. We need more real thinkers in the world today. Whining and being annoying, however... no.)

2. I will not post anything online that would lead a young person astray. (This includes pictures.) If someone else tags me in something that would lead a young person to believe that inappropriate or dangerous behavior is acceptable, I will untag myself. I will kindly but firmly ask the person who posted such a status/picture/etc. to delete it. And then I will make an effort to not do such behaviors again in real life.

3. I will not use the internet for my own emotional problems. Instead, I will take serious matters to a friend, family member, counselor, priest, and/or God.

4. I will not post online for attention. I will fill my emotional needs with healthy, family/friend relationships.

5. I refuse to subtweet.

(Subtweeting means that you post about a particular person or issue, but you try to make it vague and general. Usually, everyone still knows that you're talking about someone specific... and they usually know who it is. For instance: "Teenage parents need to take responsibility for their actions; life isn't all fun and games anymore." Or, "Ex-husbands need to remember that their ex-wives still have feelings." In those statements, I'm pretty sure that you're talking about someone specific, right?? Be honest.)

5a. I will not post something online in order to "fix" another person. If I find myself about to post a link, status, etc., that is specifically meant for one person to see, in order that they will change their behavior, I will stop myself and not go through with it.

5b. I will not post something on the internet to berate or bully another person.

(Yes, adults can be cyberbullies, too.)

5c. If I have a complaint about a specific person, organization, etc., I will communicate this concern through the proper channels.
(For instance: I have seen people post complaints online about our parish, when a simple phone call to the office would have cleared the whole issue up. It's usually a genuine miscommunication or misunderstanding. If you post about it online, then you've spread that miscommunication, not to mention lots of negativity and drama, to more people!)

6. Before I put something online, I will ask myself: "If the whole world saw this, would I be okay with it?"

7. If I have violated any of the above, I will delete those posts/pictures/links/quotes/etc.

8. I will not live in the online world more than I live in the real world. I will not post every single thing I do via social media.

9. If I can't seem to stop myself from these behaviors, I will take a break from social media until I can!

I, __________, hereby pledge to stop making the internet ridiculously unhealthy, petty, and immature. By my presence, I will make the online world a more constructive, joyful, good, healthy place to be.

A couple of notes:

1) This is not an exhaustive list of immature/just plain bad online behavior. It's just a few things that I've noticed. (Let me know if there's something else you think I should add!)

2) Younger people, not yet adults, can also join on this bandwagon of internet maturity... why not? The more you can avoid having emotional issues, the better and happier you will be!

3) Don't actually make a room full of people stand up and pledge this. (Then I would feel bad about making you all go through a super-cheesy ritual.) Just make the decision within yourself (and maybe with some friends!) that you're going to be an awesome, emotionally mature, role-model worthy adult.

"No foul language should come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for needed edification, that it may impart grace to those who hear.... All bitterness, fury, anger, shouting, and reviling must be removed from you, along with all malice. And be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another as God has forgiven you in Christ." -Ephesians 4:29, 31-32 

"Don't Mess Up"

Ever since catechetics classes in college (CCC - pun totally intended), I've been intrigued by the idea of "the question behind the question." For instance, when someone asks, "Why can't women become priests?" they may actually be asking, "Why does the Catholic Church think I have less brains then men?" When you hear "Why won't the Church allow same-sex marriage?" the real question might be, "Why would you think God hates my best friend/brother/mom?" Etc., etc., etc. It's always a good idea to not just pay attention to the words you hear, but think about what might be motivating those words. Don't just address the question at face value; go deeper, and address the heart of the matter at hand. #goodpastoralprinciples #catecheticsforthewin

I've recently been thinking about this idea of a deeper meaning behind our words. I work in a church office, which is... uh... interesting! Amazing, fantastic, a blessing... but I will be the first to say, we are quite normal, with our own personal sins and flaws. One of those awful realities that we fall into in the Church, as sinners, is *drumroll for the awfulness*... gossip.

"Why didn't so-and-so understand that she had to ___ (jump through x, y, and z hoop)? Now she ____ (sin worthy of the Antichrist)!"

"So-and-so forgot to ____ (task so dumb that a dog could do it)! I asked her if she knew what she was doing, and she said she did, so I just believed her... then we all had to cover for her!"

"I can't believe they were late with their paperwork AGAIN! No one ever looks at the deadlines, no matter how many times I remind them."

Believe me, I'm guilty of this sort of complaining myself. But I've been thinking recently... what do these complaining, gossipy statements actually saying? What's the message behind the message?

"If you mess up, everyone will hear about it and complain about you behind your back. So don't mess up."

"If you're not perfect, we don't want to deal with you."

"My deadline is the most important thing in your life... why can't you see that?"

I'm not advocating that we encourage bad habits and irresponsibility, or that we can't stick to the rules when need be, or that we have to become human doormats. That's swinging over to the other extreme. But in a Church based on the mercy and redemption coming from Jesus Christ, what are we actually communicating to others? On a basic human level, if we're afraid of the judgment of our brothers and sisters in Christ, how much trust can we really have in each other? How much of a real relationship is actually possible? Do we have each others' backs, or do we lash out behind their backs?

I'll be honest... I started coming to this conclusion in the moments when I'm the one who messed up. I realize the value of being gracious to people, mostly because I'm in need of grace. And it's gone both ways for me... the vast majority of the time, I'm given way more generosity and leniency than I deserve. On the other hand, there are those times I've heard whispers in the halls (and loud declarations, as well!), and it makes me more conscious of my own speech. Would I always be okay with people overhearing my conversations? Do I really need to emphasize another person's mistake, so that everyone realizes that "they" did it, and that I'm perfectly innocent, responsible, and that I have my act together? (Because let's just get real... anyone who's been in my office and seen my desk knows that I don't have it all together!) Would it really be that hard to move on without making that snide comment, rolling my eyes, or otherwise drawing attention to another person's flaws? What if I spread grace, joy and peace wherever I went, instead? I'm guessing that's what Our Lady did!

I've seen people get disheartened over the fact that the Church is made up of sinners, and I'm not trying to do that here. Instead, I just want to encourage you all that when it comes to fallen humanity, there is hope (hey-o, Advent)! Things don't have to be like they are. Christ came to redeem every part of us, including our relationships. Today, let's allow him to do that.

The Joy of the Gospel!

Alright, everybody... stop what you're doing and read Pope Francis' new Apostolic Exhortation, Evangelii Gaudium! That is all. Just do it!

**Update: I found this article by Brandon Vogt to be helpful, because it gives a little bit of historical context and explanation! You might want to look over it before you read the document itself.

**Update #2: This thing is long! You may need to pace yourself. I've personally still got about 120 paragraphs to go. So worth it, though! 

"The great danger in today’s world, pervaded as it is by consumerism, is the desolation and anguish born of a complacent yet covetous heart, the feverish pursuit of frivolous pleasures, and a blunted conscience. Whenever our interior life becomes caught up in its own interests and concerns, there is no longer room for others, no place for the poor. God’s voice is no longer heard, the quiet joy of his love is no longer felt, and the desire to do good fades. This is a very real danger for believers too. Many fall prey to it, and end up resentful, angry and listless. That is no way to live a dignified and fulfilled life; it is not God’s will for us, nor is it the life in the Spirit which has its source in the heart of the risen Christ.

"I invite all Christians, everywhere, at this very moment, to a renewed personal encounter with Jesus Christ, or at least an openness to letting him encounter them; I ask all of you to do this unfailingly each day. No one should think that this invitation is not meant for him or her, since “no one is excluded from the joy brought by the Lord”. The Lord does not disappoint those who take this risk; whenever we take a step towards Jesus, we come to realize that he is already there, waiting for us with open arms. Now is the time to say to Jesus: “Lord, I have let myself be deceived; in a thousand ways I have shunned your love, yet here I am once more, to renew my covenant with you. I need you. Save me once again, Lord, take me once more into your redeeming embrace”. How good it feels to come back to him whenever we are lost!" 

(Evangelii Gaudium 2-3)

"Come Take a Good Look at the Bottom of My Boot..."

So I've mentioned this song before, but I ran across this video the other day and I thought I'd share!

Seriously, can you even handle this level of cuteness??

Besides the fact that this song pretty much already beats Satan up lyrically, I bet this happy, lovey video makes him even madder. Extra victory!! So, feel free to watch on repeat all afternoon. ;)

A Thirst for the Incarnate

Last week, a lovely article entitled "18 Things Everyone Should Start Making Time For Again" was making the rounds amongst some friends of mine. I read it, thought it was perfect (minus one subtle suggestion that there might be a time and a place for drunkenness - but we will overlook that one minor flaw in a sea of perfection), and therefore shared it on my own Facebook wall.

As a side note (sorry, we're taking a detour already!), can I just say that, not feeling comfortable with using both "perfect" and "perfection" in that last sentence, I Googled the definition of "perfection" and found this?

a person or thing perceived as the embodiment of perfection.

"I am told that she is perfection itself"

synonyms:

the ideal, a paragon, the ne plus ultra, a nonpareil, the crème de la crème, the last word, the ultimate, the best; informalone in a million, the tops, da bomb; dated,the bee's knees, the cat's meow/pajamas/whiskers "for him, she was still perfection"

Huh-larious, no? Next time I shall use "crème de la crème" or "da bomb." By the way... am I the only one who thinks that Google needs to chill with the special days of celebration? I miss the days of the basic Google, in all its blue, red, yellow and green-lettered glory. These days, it's as if we have mandated celebrations, practically daily, of the birthday of every obscure famous person and the anniversary of their obscure, albeit apparently important to their field, work! (I realize that "obscure famous" is sort of an oxymoron, but just go with it. Life is a paradox.) It used to be special to see a nifty little animated Google hompage, decorated for the day's event; now it's simply normal and confusing. Bring back the magic, Google! Celebrate real holidays! Or at least, include some saints! (Sorry about all this... I have had a beef with Google ever since they changed the definition of the word "literally" to mean, literally, "not literally." Check it out here. But despite my pent-up personal issues with the world's most famous search engine, I still probably use it 5,682 times a day. Ah well.)

Back to the wonderful article about eighteen lovely things! After I shared it, I was struck by how several others were sharing it and liking it, and seemingly struck by it as well. And they weren't all Franciscan girls in love with Jane Austen and accustomed to regular coffee dates with household sisters, either. I'm used to talking about such things with that sort of crowd; I identify with handwritten letters, good conversation and cookie-baking. That's kinda my scene, you know? My friends own tea-sets. But this article didn't only pique the interest of those particular friends!

(Update: Google has slightly redeemed itself. The sample sentence for the word "struck," when I was looking for a synonym, is "Lucy was struck by the ethereal beauty of the scene." Very nice, Google dictionary people. You get one point back.)

What is so striking to me is that it's nearly universally acknowledged that we are losing a sense of presence, culture, and humanity. How often do you have a conversation with someone about everyone always being on their phone, over-sharing their personal business on Facebook, constantly taking a picture for Instagram instead of actually enjoying the beauty before our very eyes? At least in my life, the topic comes up all the time! No one gasps when you bring up the thought that we spend too much time online, or that we all feel so super crazy busy and wish we didn't. More or less, everyone agrees!

And everyone continues to thirst.

For presence. For culture. For beauty. For real, incarnate humanity, in all its tangible goodness.

We are all thirsting for reality.

A few weeks ago, I was going through a very stressful, busy period; so was a dear friend of mine. We had both been so on edge, and not particularly present to each other, when something dawned on me. "I don't think God wants us to live this way," I suddenly thought. "I think Jesus wants more for us." And doesn't he? Didn't he make us to be genuinely free, truly human, full of beauty and grace? Ready at all times to love, to really see the other person in front of us.

What does it say about our culture, that reading a real book, writing a real letter, listening to music instead of making it mere background music to our multi-tasking, making a true commitment, thinking before responding to others, and just taking time to be with people are all seen as unreachable ideals? Beautiful, of course; our grandparents once knew these arts in the past, but sigh, things that no one has time for anymore and that we can never truly recover. Sigh, sigh. Like those little wispy clouds that you wish you could float around in, but that it's probably not possible to reach and experience for yourself (does anyone else wish this, besides me? Also, if you take a hot air balloon ride, can you play in the clouds? Just curious). At any rate, we all seem to be wistfully longing for something past, something better than what we have now. Yes? Do you sense this, too?

So, here's the sitch, as I see it (Kim Possible reference, yes ma'am):

On one hand, we have gotten ourselves into quite a cultural predicament, up in hurrr (this phrase is another example of the degeneration of culture... ha, ha).

On the other hand, this is so extremely hopeful!!! Let me explain.

When we all have a common longing, that is an incredible opportunity! If everyone wants ice cream, for instance, it's a perfect time to bring out the banana splits! If we are all longing for presence, thought, art, and incarnate reality (aka Jesus Christ)... this is the perfect entry point into the human heart! People are actually receptive to this stuff!!

Ergo, I'm pretty excited.

Just like Surprise Party Sue... I'm so freakin' excited!!!

The great thing about all of these things is  that they are tangible, concrete, not out of our reach at all! We can sit down and write a letter to a friend; we can intentionally make time to listen to music, and just appreciate it; we can actually stand outside and look at the sky and marvel at its unique beauty for a while! We can all sit down and actually take time to really, genuinely pray.

I'm not even going to pretend to tackle the whole issue of technology, being overly busy, lack of real art and culture, etc., in our world today; it's way too big for my little brain. But I do know this: it's time! Let's go! If the people we know are thirsting for a reclaimed humanity, let's start making the decisions and commitments it takes to put beauty and presence back into our lives.

I heard a story on the radio yesterday about a restaurant owner who is doing his own small, super creative part! Check it out... he is offering his customers a 50% discount on their meals if they agree to one small thing: to turn off their phones during their dining experience! Isn't that incredible? In one restaurant, in one little corner of the world, this guy is making an effort to reclaim personal relationships, to get people back in touch with humanity. I think he is awesome!

So, in the spirit of all this incarnational awesomeness, I have one last thought. Advent is coming up... the season of preparing for Christ, the fullness of true humanity, the Incarnation Himself! What if, for Advent, we tried to be more present as well? For instance (and I can't take credit for this idea), what if we decided to write a letter each day of Advent? Or really, any of the 18 items on that list... or, make up your own list! Whatever floats your boat. But what if, while we are preparing to celebrate Jesus taking on humanity, we became more human, too?

A Tribute

To all the people in my life who make me laugh:

(No, nothing to do with The Hunger Games! Sorry if the title misled you.)

You keep me moving, alive and persevering: you keep me sane. You generously wield the ability to turn a horrible, mildly bad, or even just bland day around for me, without even knowing it. Making fun of me and/or just spouting off some silly, nonsensical ridiculousness makes me feel happy and very well-loved (kind of similar to keeping a plant well-watered, or a rabbit well-fed). So thanks for contributing to the cause! I appreciate you letting Jesus use you to love me. :)

I know that I may put an inordinate amount of importance on a sense of humor, fun, wit and clever comedic timing. I don't mean to, but thanks for indulging me! I apologize if I've ever made you feel like you have to be funny to be my friend... but it's only partially true! It just so happens that I think God made us all a little weird and quirky and funny, so I simply do my best to bring out the best of it in you! It's a gift (maybe). Oh, and if ever I'm laughing at you, don't be insulted; it's one of my highest compliments, truly. 

I do understand that Christian joy is different than mere fun or a sense of humor... but they can intertwine, yes? It takes humility to laugh at yourself. So you're just helping me grow in holiness! ;) 

Thank you for keeping me from taking myself too seriously! And thank you for helping me to see, when I'm in a funk you may not even know about, that things really aren't that bad. Hopefully, some time or another, I can do the same for you.

"Do not be saddened this day, for rejoicing in the LORD must be your strength!" -Nehemiah 8:10

Mmmmmmmm

I've recently realized how much I like to cook. If you're my friend, you probably already knew that, and are wondering why I didn't see something so obvious about myself! The thing is, I've always known that I liked it... I just didn't realize how much! My aunt and uncle were visiting the other day, and they commented on all of my different kitchen gadgets (and how when I move someday, I probably won't have enough counter space for them all). There's just something so stress-relieving about coming up with a delicious, creative dinner! 

One of my big things is trying to make food unique. While I do eat a lot of the same things over and over, or at least tend to buy the same ingredients, I find a special little joy in putting a twist on a meal to make it something different. Google is my friend - a lot of times I'll have an idea, but not really know the best way to make it. The interwebs helps! ;) We be in the twenty-first century. So let's take advantage of it, right?

I thought I'd share some successes with you, in case you're looking for a new idea! (I'm always looking, so please share your own!) None of these are very hard or take too long, because I'm kind of leery about trying elaborate recipes that take all day, unless I really have an appetite for something. Plus, I'm not good at planning ahead, so I make up a lot of things on the spot, when my tummy is like "HUNGRY! NOW!" A lot of these tips also are specifically for those of you who are cooking for one (or maybe two)... if that's you, you know the struggles, so I don't have to elaborate on that any more. 

Anyway, here they be: 

1. Vodka sauce (and other pasta ideas).

Take your ordinary spaghetti sauce, and make it awesome! You could just buy a vodka sauce pre-made in a jar. But living by myself, it takes multiple meals to eat through one jar, so I might as well use a normal sauce in different ways!

I stumbled upon how to do this by accident. Obviously, you heat up the basic sauce and add vodka. But I knew there was more involved. When I looked up a recipe online, it called for heavy cream, which I didn't have at the time (among other things). I did have a sweet, creamy vidalia onion salad dressing, though! So I experimented with that and voila! Delish. Don't be weirded out; if I hadn't told you, you'd eat it and love it and never know I put salad dressing in your sauce. Anyway, that's what I mean about just experimenting with what you've got! You may come up with a breakthrough. (If you're going to try it, a little dressing goes a long way, just FYI.)

I've been experimenting with tofu a little, too, and this is what I like to do when I'm adding it to pasta with this sauce (or even just straight-up spaghetti sauce): press it for a while to get the water out, then marinate in soy sauce (I know, I know, it sounds like we're mixing Chinese and Italian. Just trust me). "Bread" it in cornstarch and cook in a little olive oil on the stove until browned. Add to already saucy pasta! And if you want to mix it up a little more, add some steamed veggies to the mix (I like to add a broccoli/cauliflower/carrot mix). Maybe that sounds weird to you. But hey, I'm the kid who brought leftover sauerkraut and mashed potatoes to school for lunch, so whatevs. ;)

2. Coconut chicken and mango salsa.

Seriously. 

Defrost chicken. Beat an egg. Dip chicken in egg, then roll in coconut. Cook in oil on the stove until both sides are golden, then bake in the oven until cooked through (like 10 min). 

Take a jar of mango salsa (there are recipes for it online, but hey, I already had it in the fridge because I'm on a specialty salsa kick). Mix it up with some corn, then heat it up.

I made rice and steamed broccoli for sides. Oh! And I took a wheat tortilla, ripped it into strips, and fried it in the leftover oil from the chicken, for homemade soft-ish tortilla chips.

Pull the chicken out of the oven, put it on the rice, and pour the salsa over it. Mmmmmm. Dip your chips in the salsa, too. To finish off the perfection, drink a piña colada with it (I happened to have one in my freezer already; those drinks in a pouch that you can find at Walmart or wherever). 

3. Salads!!!

Salads are the best, because you can do whatever you want to them. No matter what you have in your kitchen, it can probably be made into a salad. One of my favorites is spring mix, craisins and crumbly feta cheese. Whatever dressing you want! And seriously, if you ever get salads at Wendy's, McDonald's, etc, and they give you more than one packet of dressing, save it for later! Or if your friends or coworkers don't want their extras, steal those. Living alone means it takes me for-ev-er to go through a whole bottle of salad dressing. So if I want variety, I gotta be thinking. 

4. Smoothies. 

See salads. Many, many things in your kitchen can be made into smoothies! Just make sure you always have ice in the freezer, some sort of fruit, and either milk, yogurt or juice. Be creative. Go nuts. 

5. Healthy ice cream.

Yeah, you got that right. I'm SO happy I stumbled upon this tip. Just freeze a banana (peeled and in pieces), and blend it up with a little milk. Really, that's it! Apparently food processors work best for this, but I have woeful luck with those (my family destroyed one, my household lost the other). It's basically a smoothie, but I think it really does taste like ice cream! 

You can make this totally not healthy by adding other ingredients. My favorite is "German chocolate." You can probably figure it out yourself, but you add coconut and chocolate in some form (syrup or hot fudge). Also, peanut butter is a good add! 

6. Pizza bread.

Go to Walmart and peruse the discount bakery. Find some kind of bread (freeze whatever you're not going to use right away; it's on the discount shelf for a reason! You don't want it to go bad). Now slice it, butter it, and top with cheese. Toaster oven until brown and bubbly! Dip in warm sauce (for me, it would be that same jar of sauce we started with, haha). 

7. Granola!

Oats, coconut, a little oil, honey, a sprinkle of cinnamon. Put foil on a baking sheet, then spread the mix out on the sheet. Bake at 350 for about 25 min, but MAKE SURE you stir it every 5 min or so, or you'll kill it. As soon as it's very light golden brown, it's done. Add in the dried fruit of your choosing while it's still hot (I'm all about the craisins!). 

Eat with milk like a cereal, or put it in your yogurt! I like to be doubly domestic and eat it with homemade yogurt, which I've strained overnight through coffee filters to make it more of a Greek yogurt style. 

Speaking of yogurt: buy or make it plain, then add different things in! Different jams, honey, fruits, etc. Similar to the "one jar of sauce becomes many" concept. 

8. Grilled veggies.

Again, anything in your fridge you need to get rid of! Chop veggies, put in ziplock bag. Pour in a little oil and any seasonings you like! Mix up well, pour onto cookie sheet covered in foil (no mess). Bake at 400 or so, until veggies are cooked through. Definitely flip them at least once so they don't burn. 

9. Go to Google. Search "what to make with ____" (whatever you have too much of in the fridge that's about to go bad).

I have found many new ideas that way! Like a squash/sausage/egg scramble... random, but great! And I found that banana "ice cream" idea by searching "what to make with old bananas besides bread" - I was in a rut. 

10. Other things I like to have on hand all the time (mental shopping list).

Tortillas - for many different burrito/wrap possibilities! Even for breakfast.

Applesauce - makes a great side for lots of meals. I get it unsweetened and plain, because it's better for you. And you can always add brown sugar or cinnamon for a treat (heat it up on a cold day, mmmm).

Potatoes - mashed, grilled, etc. And then you can take the leftovers and turn them into potato pancakes! Keep them somewhere cool and dark (I put them in the fridge, which maybe is weird) and they'll last a long time.

Cheese - you will want to add it to something. You really just will... Out of nowhere you'll think, "This would be perfect with cheese!" I like to keep one white and one yellow, just to have my bases covered.  

Also:

Milk

A juice of some sort - plus lemon juice, for cooking 

Veggies - something fresh, but also something frozen for when you're in a pinch. Same with fruit.

Lettuce - for those salads

Rice and pasta... So basic, and they just sit there patiently until you want them!

At least one type of meat in the freezer

A can of beans - red or black, usually. Add to burritos, salads, soups, etc.

Bouillon and/or a can of soup - if you're suddenly struck sick and you live by yourself, you may not want to cook, so the premade can is handy (if you're one of those cooking snobs and you always make yours from scratch, don't judge me!) 

Obvious things like eggs, butter, oil, flour, seasonings

I'm not sure at what point I turned this into "how to live alone and cook creatively, by someone in her 20's figuring it out as she goes," haha. But hopefully you don't feel too patronized. Just passing along some tips that have kept me alive and cooking happily! :) Please, I want to hear your wisdom, too!